1. Stop
If you are in the middle of your arguments, or you feel that
you are about to fall, then Stop! If you are in a motion or about to hit or
child, then stop! STOP gestures must be practice to help you put a gap with
your emotions on that certain moment. The best gesture for stopping your
emotions is by holding the hands in front of the face, palms out and the
fingers straight up. Drive the anger away and say the word stop. This technique
is very effective in all kinds of problems, may it be minor or major problems
that needed to be solve.
2. Give space to yourself
When you feel irritate, the last thing that you have to do
is to stay connected in the spot that is creating you feel bad and increasing
your anger even more. It is very vital that at this moment you are not trying
to contact with the circumstances that is creating your angry higher. You will
not resolve the problem in the time of your anger, the best way is you give
space and be away from the stimulus of your anger, to give time of calmness and
recollection of yourself.
3. Breathe extremely
Start it by simply organizing your physical and internal response
to anger. When the heart rate increases, it goes with the rapid rate of breathing
and the voice are raise while the face becomes flushed. The initial move to
inner management is to take a deep breath.
Deep breathing permits your body to be filled with oxygen.
This will halt the adrenaline flash that floods within the body when you’re annoyed.
This additional oxygen flow will calm down the body and breathing, makes the heart
rate slow, and permits the brain to start again logical thinking.
4. Analyzing
The moment you are relaxed, try seeing what had happened. A better
way to realize what really happen is to picture out that it is actually happening
to someone dear to you, like a sister or a friend. Glimpsing at the circumstances
as a stranger might aid you view the reality. You may either easily comprehend
on what is the basis or origin of your anger, or you may either think that your
reaction is actually not proportion to what really happened.
5. Defining the problem
The moment you view the circumstances a lot better now, it
is the moment that you have to finally define the real problem is simple words.
6. Solving the problem
The moment you begin solving the problem, you can then think
of options for solving the problem. You can either write it down to have
selection of possible options of solutions or talk to someone older than you
for possible help. Remember that there is always a solution to every problem,
all you need to do is to find for the right one that will definitely fit for
you.
